I am truly blessed
I have often spoken about emotions in classes and how we need them. We all know that sometimes we need to feel anger, guilt, fear etc we wouldn’t be human if we didn’t. Yet for years we get told not to feel these things that its bad! But how and when is a normal human emotion bad. I guess it’s when the emotion is irrational or unwarranted. Of course if we don’t allow ourselves to express what we feel, these emotions build up inside to the point where we can no longer control them and this may be considered an issue.
So why do we supress our emotions? The reasons vary from person to person. We may get told as children it’s wrong to express a certain emotion, its weak but sometimes we need them for our survival, can you imagine a life without fear? Many of us wouldn’t still be around to tell the tale.
Then sometimes we just supress these emotions because we grew up seeing someone reacting or over dramatizing an emotion and we just don’t want to be like that. But of course “what your resist persists” in many ways.
The most damaging ways I have this play out with clients is when a person steps away from being their authentic self because they don’t want to be like their parents, a teacher, an uncle/aunt who showed that emotion and miss out on living their fullest potential through fear of being like them. Another is that they try to hide their shadow side (not acceptable traits) to the world only to have these traits take over who they are on an unconscious level., yet very visible to everyone around them.
When we begin to accept that we feel every emotion and its ok to do so we begin to regain control over that emotion rather than that emotion controlling us.
Holding on to toxic emotions can also affect our health, when our body aches it’s trying to tell us something isn’t working for us. Listen to your body it has a lot of wisdom to share. Being able to accept that we are everything and we need to allow our emotions to be felt leads to a healthier more peace full life. So if you’re feeling supressed toxic emotions are affecting your perception of the world consider dealing with them through some form of therapy and allowing then to release so they no longer can hold you back. Also next time you feel your emotions bubbling up inside allow them to be felt and expressed in a healthy way, some forms of this are journaling, meditating, talking to someone, going to the gym or walking in nature, whatever works for you. Remember to give yourself enough time to allow these to flow through you and there is no right or wrong, the idea is to allow then to move through you so that they no longer can affect you, now or in the future.